I really do have strong feelings for him and want to make this work… but I'm beginning to feel like I have no identity of my own anymore and I will forever just be, "the doctor's wife. Also, I know a bunch of Mormons that say they are, but don't act like it. Well in my case and at this time, some of their words and advice are really hitting home and taking root because we are yet another casualty of the residency firing brigade. And even longer when you add that one-year fellowship to the end of it. I have a tendency to be overly sensative emotionally and the trauma of being forced to choose between someone I love and want to spend the rest of my with and Eternal Mormon Celestial Salvation caused me extensive emotional damage that I have struggled with ever since. I don't think so. After you read the CES letter Im pretty sure you will be grossed out by mormonism. With me it's less about taking my time and more about the mental drain.

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You may look on here and see all of us, but a lot of us got out much much older. It seems she'll expect you to become Mormon. She is considered "an old maid" by Mormon standards, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded that your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of sealed Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones again. I realize that the answers to many of these questions may be different for every family, and that we need to continue to discuss them more as a couple as we continue to think about our future. Her brain has been wired from birth by said cult. I am the same good faithful woman I always was, just on a different path than I ever expected, one full of insights and blessings I never knew could exist. The envy of all of our friends.
I've been thinking more about your situation and another thing came to mind. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Since internship started, I always feel disappointed with my fiance'. Their marriage falls apart because they are both working way too many hours, and they lose their way in life. Doesn't leave many options here though but better than constantly having them push the church on you until you either give in and convert or break up. The thing about General Authorities and General Conference, is that they give general counsel that is meant for the general population. Me doing everything around the house, running all errands, and working full time doesn't compete with the high stakes work he does and he doesn't understand how hard I am working also because of his job. A year would have been just fine. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately.
All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem. Communicate and get those answers, OP. And though most people think I'm the difficult one in the relationship they don't realize he is of stronger opinions he just let's me take the heat from outsiders. I loved him for THAT. At parties, they drink soda and play board games. At the risk of overloading this post, I'm going to copy and paste here, a Reddit comment that I made in this exmo sub the other day.