If you're flying solo or you've been married for 25 years, irrespective of your relationship status there are countless reasons why you should learn how to pleasure yourself and masturbate. To give you a leg up, sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight and Claire Kim, program director at OMGYes , share their tips to help you to enhance your solo sexual pleasure, so you can nail toe-tingling orgasms and have the best solo sex of your life:. Aside from the fact that it feels good, from stress reduction to improved sleep and even help with menstrual cramps, masturbation comes with a number of health benefits.
1. Schedule in time to work out what you like
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WE'RE always told to learn how our bodies work so we can experience full sexual satisfaction. Self-pleasure — masturbation — ranks high in this advice. With a view to sharing this insider-info one day with a lucky partner. Or beating around the bush so to speak! This becomes the only way they climax. But it can be hard to mimic the exact friction and pressure you give yourself, with a partner. Or they simply rush to their end goal, climaxing quickly, so romping through the four stages of orgasm — the arousal stage, the plateau stage, the actual orgasm stage, and finally the resolution stage of post-orgasmic bliss. In the arousal stage, you experience lots of exciting little changes with heart rate quickening, nipples becoming erect, lubrication starts, blood flows to your clitoris and vagina.
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This is completely normal and very common. The climaxes you give yourself are more dynamic because you're completely in control of your pleasure. You probably take the time to build your arousal which leads to stronger orgasms and focus on your erogenous areas -- like your G-spot and clitoris -- with the precise pressure, movement and strokes that catapult you over the edge. Your self-induced orgasms are also more intense because you can totally concentrate on your enjoyment; you're not distracted worrying about how much pleasure your guy is experiencing. Since you know better than your boyfriend exactly what it takes to make your head spin, show him how to replicate your solo technique. Try giving him a tutorial by masturbating in front of him, which can make for an incredibly erotic encounter. Or, give him a demo with your hand over his, then have him mimic your moves. You can also amp up your arousal when doing the deed by having sex in positions that give both of you easy clitoral access -- like woman-on-top and doggy-style. While all these strategies should intensify your sack sessions, there's a good chance that your most earth-shattering orgasms will still be those you give yourself.
Then there are others, myself included. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior in , 72 percent of women ages reported having masturbated in the past 90 days, but in other age groups, that number dropped to the mid- to lower 60s. But Fehr says that the problem might stem from the fact that all women are built pretty differently. For the regular masturbators, this means setting aside your favorite sex toy and using the tools you were born with… and maybe also a mirror. Give yourself extra time for this, and make your surroundings comfortable it might seem silly, but really, you can get out those candles and soothing music if you want. This is about more than just rubbing one out. Rather than going straight for that big O, try looking at your labia and clitoris in the mirror as you touch them, experimenting with different sensations and noticing how they change.
